Unfittable!

Some people walk into a room and instantly blend in.
You walk in and instantly notice.

Not the décor.
Not the noise.

But the unspoken things - the emotional undercurrent, the masks people wear, the sentences chosen to avoid saying the ones that matter.

And sometimes you wonder, quietly, privately,
“Is it me? Why do I feel like I’m orbiting life, watching everyone else live it?”

I once read a Timothy Leary passage about people who feel too deep for the world they live in.

Buried inside it was a line that felt less like advice and more like truth:

“Find the others.”
Not the normal ones.
Not the scripted ones.
The real ones.

Let’s explore what those words truly mean.

THE UNIVERSAL OUTSIDER 🧭

Here’s the paradox:
Almost everyone thinks they’re the outsider pretending to be normal.

Carl Jung once wrote, “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”
But modern life doesn’t reward that privilege; it punishes it.

When I first moved to London for LSE, I felt that silent mismatch.
New country, new cohort, new expectations.

Everyone seemed fluent in “casual cool,” while my native language was introspection, philosophy, meaning.

I wasn’t inferior.
Just tuned differently.

And that truth is universal:
New rooms amplify your difference before they reward your depth.

Most people don’t blend. They perform.
The ones who blend naturally? Rare.
The ones who feel different? Almost everyone, but no one admits it.

SCRIPTS VS SOUL SIGNALS 📡

Human interactions operate on two bandwidths:

Surface Scripts

Safe. Predictable. Socially accepted.

“How’s work?”
“Crazy weather, isn’t it?”
“Weekend plans?”

Nothing wrong with them, they keep society functional.

Soul Signals

Raw. Honest. Textured.

“What’s the one thing you’re resisting right now?”
“When did you last feel alive?”
“What scares you about becoming yourself?”

Deep people feel suffocated not because they’re dramatic, but because they’re wired for Soul Signals in a Surface Script world.

If you observe life close enough with objectivity, you’ll realise that emotional richness - not happiness, not positivity - is the strongest predictor of long-term psychological well-being.

Your desire for deeper conversations is not a quirk.
It’s biology.
It’s survival.

And if you’ve ever felt “too much,” here’s the truth:

You’re not too much.
You’re underexpressed around the wrong frequencies.

FREQUENCY, NOT FAULT 🔊

Difference is not deficiency, it’s diagnostic.

Alan Watts said, “Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth.”

We don’t define ourselves through self-analysis.
We define ourselves through contrast, noticing what environments amplify us and which ones mute us.

Try speaking to top executives, friends, and strangers with the same emotional honesty.

Not because you’re brave.
Not because you’re naïve.
But because authenticity is less risky than self-betrayal.

Sometimes people might misunderstand it.
But over time, the right ones, your people, recognise the signal.

Authenticity doesn’t discriminate by audience.
Only perception does.

Your depth is not their responsibility.
Your signal is.

PUZZLE-PIECE THEORY 🧩

Rumi said, “What you seek is seeking you.”

Not metaphorically.
Structurally.

Every person carries a puzzle piece you need:

• A sentence you’ve never heard before

• A worldview you hadn’t considered

• A truth you weren’t ready for

• A chapter of your growth story

But you cannot collect these pieces while running on muted mode.

“Find the others” is not destiny. It is a practice.

Signal honestly → Let resonance filter → Let depth find depth.

The ones meant for you will step forward.
Everyone else will step aside.

THE MICRO-BRAVERY PROTOCOL ⚡

You don’t need to jump from small talk to existential truth.
You need micro-bravery - tiny acts of honesty that accumulate into deeper connection.

Here is your framework:

1. One Level Deeper Rule

When someone asks “How are you?”, avoid the script.
Go one layer deeper than usual.

Example:
“I’m good, but mentally juggling some big decisions.”

Not oversharing.
Just signalling depth.

2. One Brave Question a Week

Ask one person something that matters.
Just once a week.

Examples:
“What’s something you’re quietly proud of?”
“What’s a dream you’re scared to say out loud?”
“What chapter are you closing?”

These questions unlock hidden doors in people.

3. Soft Antennas, Not Hard Agendas

Don’t try to impress.
Don’t try to perform.
Just tune your antennas to authenticity.

Look for:

• Spark in the eyes

• A pause before they answer

• A subtle shift in tone

Those micro-signals reveal resonance.

This is not about being intense.
It’s about being present.

HIGHER PERSPECTIVE 🌤️

You will never attract depth while avoiding your own.

Finding the others begins with becoming the “other” for yourself, the person who asks deeper questions, gives honest answers, and refuses to shrink for convenience.

Because here’s the unobserved fact:

You’re not alone.
You’re simply unmet.

And maybe, just maybe, someone in your world is waiting for your first brave signal.

This week, send out one honest signal.
Not loudly.
Not dramatically.
Just clearly.

See who surfaces.

Because the world is full of people who feel exactly like you, they’re just waiting for someone to go first.

Until next week,

love,

aayush

hustle peacefully!